posted 24th September 2025
Life's Path
We all have a life path. A journey in which is completely ours. Call it choice, call it destiny, it is the path that is for us. But I don't know about you, sometimes I get confused as to whether I should change direction, make a new choice or accept what is, to move forward.
If you have goals you want to achieve them. If you have desires, you want them fulfilled. It doesn't matter whether you're thinking about your personal fulfilments or wanting to assist the fulfilments of others, our drive is innate to us, and it is what keeps us going, day in day out.
There are challenges and there are joys, there are wins and there are losses. Without either or, we wouldn't actually know the difference. This is life. But of course we do compare.. you see your friend getting married when you cant get a boyfriend, you see your sister advancing in her career when you cant seem to get a temp job to get by, you see the millionaire Gen Z constantly on holiday on instagram and you wonder, am I making the wrong choices? am I not standing up for myself enough? am I going in the wrong direction for me? or is this just my fate and I should accept it?
When Life is Going Well
When life is going well, it seems like we have got our ** together, we are "aligned", we are supported and we feel loved and almost gifted by the world. Well at least I do anyhow.
I feel that I made the right choices at the right time and I am more grounded than when things were more sour, more connected and in sync with what i'm meant to be doing on this earth.
Or so it would seem.
Then what seems to happen is I get this impetus to live more in that way, whatever I had been doing, to keep momentum, to keep myself on the "right" path, for things to keep coming in "good". And yet, inevitably at some point the tables turn, and I feel i'm all off path again and IVE done something wrong.
Anyone else feel like this too? Im sure i'm not the only one.
When Life Is A Little Sour
On the other hand, when life isn't going well I do blame myself; I think if you're a conscious human, we all do. And this is because we want to get it right, we want to fulfil our dreams, we want this life to matter.
So we try something different, a new approach to a sticky situation, a new communication tool to resurrect the relationship, a new workout to look and feel better, a new job application to keep trying.
But what is really making a difference and what is just unnecessary time wasted on trying to turn the situation in our favour?
What if even the things that didn't work out the way we wanted, were actually working in our favour?
Personally, I feel that some situations are alot easier to accept and let go of that others. Relations and relationships being the ones I find most hardest - possibly due to my fourth house placements in astrology and my moon and venus being in the emotional Pisces. (Learn more about astrology HERE )
What about you?
The Curse Of Conditioning
Growing up in the UK, I was told "you should make an effort", "you should try your best", you should do this and that to reach your goals, desires and to find harmony in situations. But since moving to Bali, I have noticed the only approach to anything both good and bad is "acceptance". And this place definately runs alot more smoothly and peacefully than UK right now. So I tried to give it a go, however a little alien to me, as im used to wanting to step in all the time.
- The guest house you booked for three months, decides to cancel you after one month - acceptance
- The guy you fancy, isn't interested in you - acceptance
- The person you first consider trying to get your visa with seems to be untrustworthy - acceptance
And the funny thing is, in doing so ....
- The guest house you booked for three months, decides to cancel you after one month - I found a better and cheaper guest house run by kinder owners and its by the beach!
- The guy you fancy, isn't interested in you - somebody else took an interest
- The person you first consider trying to get your visa with seems to be untrustworthy - you found a company who are professional to process your visa swiftly and efficiently
I definately had to question this method further.
Acceptance Brings Ease
So what I noticed in trying to accept everything from the driver going the wrong way, to my wifi cutting off and me having to rewrite some of this blog again because it didnt upload, is.... when I completely accept it for what it is and don't try to want it to be another way, I relax.
I stop feeling scared that something terrible is going to happen.
I stop feeling like the world is against me.
I stop feeling annoyed by the fact the outcome should have been another way.
Instead:
I feel just as I did in the previous moment - ok.
I don't feel agitated or angry.
My blood pressure hasn't reached Mount Everest.
My nervous system hasn't stopped working in the panick of how am I going to correct this, because, there is nothing to correct.
I am:
free from responsibility.
I am at ease with what is.
But What About Standing Up For Whats Right?
Of course, there are more serious scenarios, like custody battles and human rights where we need to step up and speak, step forward and take action. But, there are also moments in these heavier cases for acceptance, and I believe this is the ability to know when to step forward and when to let it be, knowing that in doing so, the rest will be taken care of accordingly. And for the highest good.
Thoughts? Send me an email to share - Hello@tealinggarden.com
Up for the challenge
30 days of acceptance, whatever happens both big and small, do you part and then step back and accept.
I will share my experiences along with your experiences on my social media in 30 days.
Lets see what unfolds!
